We all have some expectations from life, from the people we love, from our work, from almost everything around us. Expectations are only normal — there is nothing wrong in expecting.
But I bet there must have been at least one moment in your life when you decided: I am not going to expect anything from this person now onwards.
Girls — do you remember the time when you were super excited about your first anniversary, secretly expecting your partner to take you for a romantic dinner — and when the day finally arrived, he didn't even wish you? How hurt were you?
Guys — remember when you had a really long day at work and all you wanted was to go home and rest, but the moment you entered, your wife started yelling? How annoyed were you?
Almost every one of us has faced these situations. What do we do? We get so hung up on what has happened that we don't even bother to think about why it happened.
Because we are so obsessed with the result that we hardly notice the path leading to it. We are more concerned about what happened than why it happened. This approach is the root cause of all our disappointments.
Life is not only about where we are now — it is about how we reached there. That is why life is called a journey and not a destination.
Next time when somebody falls short of your expectations, take a moment to think about the possibilities that may have led to this situation. Before blaming others for not understanding you, think about how much you understand them.
Instead of taming your grudges, communicate your expectations compassionately to the other party. Give time to your loved ones and pay attention to them. Keep communicating your feelings and listening to theirs.
When you take care of every step of the process, the result will take care of itself.
Wishing you Peace and Abundance — Ashay Shah
